True Love is The Absence of Judgement

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The other day, one of my friends who closely saw me and my mother for years (but he never understood me truly, that's a different issue) angrily said , "You don't know how to respect your own mother. You don't love her". I was hardly hit by his comment and burst out into tears for two reasons.
 1. Don't I really respect and love my mother? 
2. Does my mom think the same way? 
 I immediately went to her and asked her if she realizes that I love her or not. She just brushed away my non-sense question by saying "Are you drunk or mad? Why wouldn't you love me and why would I think that way?" That released my tension a bit but pushed me into the deep contemplation of how we are misunderstood and misinterpreted by people when they come into our closer circle and when they knew all our positives and negatives? That's why they say not to bring people close to you unless they afford to be non-judgemental with you out of love.


It also taught me how important it is to make your loved ones know that we love them so much and make them realize that they are our world. In a chaotic world where we deal with all kinds of people outside the home and manage to smile, we come back home, take our loved ones for granted and shout at them and release our frustration. In most of the cases, people understand as they love us so much. But sometimes, our frustration is misunderstood as arrogance and disrespect. Hence, let us talk to them more often and let them know that we love them. And my dear friend! Yes I shout at my mother (which you also do). Yes I take her for granted and demand everything from her. Yes I will fight with her. But you have no right to judge my love for my mom because at the end of the day, I know that I can't live without her and she knows it too. I know that she is my best friend, moral support and who loves me unconditionally no matter how much I take her for granted. But today, I will go to her and tell her how much she means to me. I will tell her how many times I miss her when I go to a trip alone. I will scold her for pampering me so much that I cannot even pack my bags properly without her. I will let her know that she is my best friend in the world. I will tell her how much I LOVE HER and I will promise her that I will be a little less frustrated and will be kind to her!
So mothers (and fathers).. Don't judge us. 
Daughters (and sons).. Make them realize that you love them so much
And friends.. don't criticize your buddies when the terms have gone wrong! :-)

Note: I am blessed to have the best bunch of friends in my life! Will post a story on them soon!! Laa la la laaa laaa! :-p

"Let no relationship be spoiled due to misunderstandings"


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